The relationship that a mother has with her child is the most beautiful in all relationships, it is more or less believed by all of us. Mother is the creator, she is the cornerstone of our creation, When we think about mother, instinctively a gentle compassionate face flickers across our eyes.
I consider myself very lucky that I got the privilege of having the affection and blessings of not one but two mothers. The first brought me to this world & with whom I spent 27 years of life. The second mother whom I found after my marriage-my loving mother-in-law. Both of them played important roles of a guide and teacher in different phases of my life.
My mother was a reticent lady with very simple nature. She lost her mother at an early age. My grandpa married for the second time and she was raised at his uncle’s place among six siblings. She was very shy. Perhaps this was the reason why I could not establish a close relationship with her at that immature age.
Despite her nature, my mother did not leave any stone unturned in making us three siblings responsible human beings. It was the impact of her upbringing that enabled us to play our part in fulfilling family responsibilities since childhood. She taught us to face every difficult phase patiently in life. I did not realize when she became a victim of psychosis, while raising three children and fulfilling family responsibilities. Being very close to my father since childhood, I could never understand my mother’s inner feelings.
Then I got married and came to my in-laws’ house. From here the second chapter of my life began. The beginning of a loving relationship between me and my mother-in-law! I learnt a lot from her in life. Her persona was very different from my mother. She was very amiable with a great sense of humor. Before marriage, I was also shy like my mother. I found it difficult to mingle with strangers. My mother in law helped me to get over my shyness. She taught me how to maintain and respect family and social relationships. If I am able to move forward with patience keeping an optimistic attitude and a strong mindset through the difficult phases of my life, the credit goes to my mother-in-law too.
It’s not that I never had disagreements with my mother-in-law. But she never allowed those small differences to stir bitterness in our relationship. If I could see my mother in her, it was because she never allowed me to realize that she was my mother-in-law. I missed the companionship of my mother due to her illness, but my mother-in-law made up for her. It is difficult to describe in words all the life lessons I learnt from my mother-in-law.
I have learnt that to make every relationship beautiful, it should be handled with mutual understanding and harmony. Forgiving of each other’s mistakes without being an egoist is essential for a loving relationship.
In fact it’s not just mother-child but every relation has an important place in human life. Whether it is, husband-wife, brother-sister, parents, uncles, aunts, grandparents or even friends, all of them connect us with family and society.
Human life is full of uncertainties. No one knows when a beautiful relationship glides into the past. Today both my mothers are not in my life anymore. Just like rivers, both my mothers nurtured me at different stages and like rivers they transcended to their own journeys while shaping up my life. I feel sorry that I couldn’t express how much I love them and how important they were in my life.
Every human being is different and has his own ideology. Conflict of ideologies is inevitable, but we must not allow this conflict hinder the way of cordial relationships. In this fast paced life, we should not ignore relationships, just to realize their importance someday after losing our loved ones, and repent for lifetime. Relationships nurtured with affection and respect become strong trees and become the foundation of an integrated family and society.
As apparent from her name, "Jaya" has always had a victorious approach towards life. Optimism is her way of living life. She loves to listen music during her leisure time. She firmly believes that failures are gateways to success.
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